We all want to feel liked, loved, happy. And we should. The US Constitution guarantees the right to pursue happiness, yet most of us think the key to bliss is somewhere outside of ourselves where we’re richer, prettier, thinner, different. Advertisers know this and aim all manner of products, movies and even food packaging at us, implying that we can have happiness by trying the latest quick fix. Even reality shows taunt us with the possibility of overnight fame and fortune – happiness and bliss implied in the story-line. The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines bliss as a state of complete happiness – even using words like “paradise” in the definition.
Sounds like quite a destination. So how can you find it?
It all starts by taking responsibility for your own happiness and destiny – and knowing that happiness is found more often along the journey, than as the ultimate destination. Negative emotions, and the distraction they cause make us feel less-than and come from within, so let’s begin there.
Here are 5 ways to look inside and find your personal version of bliss:
- Take responsibility. You are the only one living your life. Live it the way you want to live it, now. Counting on others to provide for your well being will often lead to disappointment. You are the only one who knows what you feel, think and want. Act on your heart’s desires and create your life the way you want it to be.
- Set goals, not resolutions. Set short, medium and long terms goals instead of hardened demands for yourself. Start with small goals to reach in smaller increments of time so that you can build on your successes. You can only lose weight one pound at a time; finish a book by reading (or writing) one page at a time. As your confidence builds, so will your momentum.
- Set aside judgement. We are our own harshest critics. Your critical mind serves no purpose except to keep you stuck. Mistakes and failures are learning experiences, not road blocks. If you can override or turn off one negative thought a day, replacing it with a positive one – that practice could grow to include two, maybe five more positive thoughts in your mind every day. More momentum gained!
- Treat, nurture and pamper yourself. Be your own best friend and lover. When we love ourselves the way we want to be loved, we attract those who treat us the way we want to be treated. You’ll be amazed!
- Encourage bliss – ask for help. Getting help from people who are having success can help encourage us in the journey toward our own dreams. Put yourself in the places where people are doing the things you want to be doing, even if you are not there yet. Ask for guidance and a helping hand. Learn from those who know how and can do. Success and happiness are contagious – be open to the energy.
Life is organic. Each day offers a new start. By living in the past or the future, looking outside ourselves or continually buying into the latest fad – we cheat ourselves out of the joy, accomplishments and true miracle of the present moment. Beauty truly comes from within so why not ask what you can do for yourself today? One small change can create momentum. Move toward what makes you happiest by taking hold of your life’s journey. You are the one who owns it.